Sometimes when I see around,looking at my friends,cousins and other unknown youngsters of my age,I am often intrigued. each of them has an all together different woe to share.I find them lonely, even amidst a hoard of friends,family and teachers. Though,these innocent young minds are still standing at the thresholds of manhood/womanhood,yet all of them have already had their share of grown-up experiences.Even within the tender age group of 16-21,all of them have already "loved and lost" atleast once in their lives,to say the least!
The fragility of human relationships gives a serious jolt to my innocent dispositions every now and then.Its just so disgusting. Isn't it?
Well,I am certainly not against the whole circle of loving and being loved. Love is undeniably,the most beautiful relationship that anyone can ever get into.But what makes me surprised,is the misinterpretation concerning love,rampant among the young hearts.
Love is not just a "Boyfriend-girlfriend" relationship! (By the way,the entire notion behind the bf-gf concept among todays's youth is ample enough to send a shiver down Adam-Eve's hearts!)
Love doesn't gives the license to play with your lover's heart,emotions and life. Its certainly not just about sending perennial text messgaes to your so-called soulmate or, constantly buzzing him/her esp at the odd hours of the day.Its not about exchanging roses and love-letters,and keeping fake Karwachauths(yes,FAKE!!!) in lieu of getting expensive gifts in return from your so-called hubby-to-be. Its even more disgusting to see some foolish girls breaking the sanctity of this esteemed custom,without even knowing a speck about its essence.I believe,its no less than a sacrilage!
Love is not about roaming hand in hand along the lake-side,just to exhibit a public display of your love.Its not about going for shopping together,expecting your lover to reimburse your extravagent bills.Its certainly not about checking out the fancy restraunts together, and then skimming through their fancy menu cards to lay hands on the most pocket-friendly platter.Its not about going on long drives playing ear-blasting music(in open jeeps,fancy cars) disrupting the traffic by rash driving.
My question is,Do we really need love at this stage of life.?
Is it even required?
Is it right to go through the trauma of heartbreaks and breakups, at the very onset of teenage?
By doing so,aren't we demeaning the sanctity of love?
Well,my answer to this would be,Yes. We certainly are depriving love of its natural charm and poise! It is really easy getting hooked with someone,but its inexplicably tougher to carry forward the relationship with a balanced amount of grace and dignity.In today's fast moving world,its not tough 'finding love',there are so many hungry hearts around ,yearning for love.But isn't it unfair,to get involved with someone,just for the sake of it?
How can you push yourself to love just about anyone or anybody who comes your comes your way? For what?
Just to please your peers,or your so-called 'deserted soul',or,just to showcase yourself as an eye-candy for others?
What makes life more tragic are,the abrupt decisions that we youngsters take in order to get rid of these relationships! No wonder,'break-ups' are the talk of the day.We find it so easy to put an end to these once-so-precious (now-not-so-precious) relationships,without even realising the consequences.Do we? Don't we?
I am sorry,if my write-up causes displeasure to any of you reading this.I wrote this,keeping in mind a veri special friend, who is having a hard time,dealing with her 'break-up'.
Dearie,don't loose hope.If He is the 'one',the 'One' meant for you, he would eventually come back or,rather you would give him a chance to prove his mettle.For the time being,let life take the best decision for both of you.Stop fretting over it!
Its neither your Loss,nor his Gain!
As I said earlier,Time is the most potent healer in the entire Kayenaat.Give your relationship some time.Just let time slip by.Eventually,it would bring out the answers to all your queries!
Let destiny and time weave their magic in your life!
Bloom again,to life.
Don't loose hope.As I often say,
Stay calm,
'The worst is yet to come'.
18 comments:
Ah...this is one of my most favorite topic of all time....these days, at times love has become synonymous with flaunting ur bf/gf, which i feel is disgusting and takes the sheen away from the most sweet feeling of being in love, being in a relationship.
Though i dont't agree there is an age to fall in love. I "fall" in love when i was 14, so it depends on hormones really. If it is destined to happen, it would happen. however hard u try, it would not be stopped.And there are times, when being in a relationship can make u feel emotionally secure and help u achieve ur goals in life n career.
Whenever breakup happens, its painful as ur friend is experiencing currently, but trust me being with a person with whom there is no future or who abuses you emotionally is far worse than being single. These times u may feel the pain, but going on u may realize that this could have been the best thing which happened to u. n may be who knows...love is again around the corner....it comes with silent shoes on...n may b ur frd cn have all the fun again :)
look, i almost wrote a post in ur comment section:P
Cheers! Keep in touch ! Keep following n visiting...happy blogging!
Cheers,
Amit
"How can you push yourself to love just about anyone or anybody who comes your comes your way? For what?"
Exactly my thoughts! I've wanted to ask this question to a lot many people over the years but held my tongue because I would be offending them for sure. I hate this concept of dating casually, open relationships, and just friends becoming lovers and vice versa, flaunting bf/gf in front of friends; love meaning only movie dates, making out, and gifts! I shudder to think what we have come to! Sensitiveness and respect towards others' emotion has taken a backseat.
woops...you are misguided by your own thoughts...
Nobody can break your heart withour your own consent....
Don't ever try to define love..
Its beyond the intrepretation of our opinions....We all define it in different manner, but just by giving many definition won't change the basic nature of it.....
Its there in everything you come across in life....Flowers, roads, sky, you just name it....
Smiles :)
Prashant
i always love to read somethng like ths,....
bcz i can connect with these kind of topics
though i m not in love....
there is no age for falling in love..
it depends..
wht matters is is he/she is a right person or not...
i just differ on ths note..
its rellly a thotful post .. n wud like to read more on ths...
Pallav
Hey! Mohita! I have been waiting for your post...!
And I agree to everything written here.My observations from the love-struck friends of mine...
1. They don't know infatuation exists.. every heart warming thought is "love".
2. The guy is too good. [ but do you FEEL for him?? Naah!! Still they will hang around with the guy till they convince us- they actually like them.]
3. Friendships .. !! Where is friendship??? Some morons pretend the friends phase and say-- I like you company-- so..?? Unreasonable!!
4. Why waste emotions feelings blah blah blah .. just becuase you feel you need someone.. live a incredible life and find someone with whom you can live happier life!!
Froget it!! We all have our definitions of "LOVE". So nobody is right and nobody is wrong. Undebatable topic.
u ve bin a true frnd babie....
and i loved reading it..well i wrote this...
To love you more than anything..
would be ignorant on my part..
i cant image my life without you..
and i also cant image my life with u..
i deserve more than you give me..
better than what i have now..
growing up is something that i need to do..
my love for you is always there..
but my heart is moving on to better things...
thanx foe being there babie and holding on to me!
@Amit
I partially agree with your opinion that love isn't bound with an age criteria!
But trust me,its a rare phenomenon to see childhood sweethearts sharing the same bond when they reach the threshold of adulthood.
Love or for that matter,any relationship demands Maturity,and space.And I personally believe that maturity comes with Age.It nurtures beautifully with advancing age.That's what I meant exactly in my post.Otherwise,one can fall in love at any age in life,provided its worth the attention.
Anyhow,I respect your comment too.
Thankyou for taking out time to ponder over my post.
@Quirky Mon
That's what!
Glad to know that your thoughts are congruent to mine.
Respect, maturity, space,trust etc are the foundation stones of a true relationship,but as you mentioned,these essential prerequisites of love have almost relegated to the backdrop in the present scenario.
@Pacifier Returns
Neah,I am not at all being carried away by my personal whims and fancies!
My post is based on my sheer observations.
I agree with you that 'love' itself is inexplicable,yet its not beyond our interpretation or comprehension.
Nevertheless,my intention wasn't to define 'love'.I was just trying to point out the vicious traits and practices that have overpowered the concept of true love in the recent times!
Hope you get my point,Now!
@Pallav,Sameera
Thanks chums.
Makes me feel good that you found it relateable.
Sameera,tahnks for adding that extra bit of affection in the beginning.I am elated.
@Megha
All I can say is,
I'll be there always,right beside you!
Love you,loads.
you ask.......if we really need love at that age?
but then........isnt that what we are?
its the same as not letting a baby walk, because you KNOW that a fall is inevitable.
forcing love on yourself isnt good.agreed.
but, forcing.......not to be in love, rationalizing feelings as something else......isnt that much worse?
@Deluded
Guess,you misunderstood my view point.
I emphasised the outrageous misconceptions about love among the young teens.
I think being single is a Choice,rather than a Self-Compulsion,till you come across your Mr./Miss Right.
May be,we are capable of better and more dignified decision making once we cross a certain age.Though,it may differ radically from person to person.No issues about it.
The basic notion behind with writeup was to emphasize the fact that Love is a Need,and not a Trend!
Falling in love must be by Choice,not by Coercion!
beautiful expressed :)
first time here. i must say you got a good blog.
okay okay..
no hard feelings..
so we are on same page as far as love is concerned.....
But i do like the song....
Jane kyo log pyar karte hai... :)
Smiles :)
Prashant
i jst love to read dis kinda topics...nd u also knw why...so hats off 2 u sweety...u cnveyed almost all d feelins vry well...keep it up gal...lik to read mre frm ur side :)
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